In many Kenyan families, a miscarriage often leads to blame instead of support. One woman shared her story with me recently. She said her relatives kept repeating “Wewe uliavya mimba!” – meaning “You aborted the baby!” – even after doctors confirmed it was a natural loss.
She had been thrilled about the pregnancy. She pictured the baby’s face, picked out small clothes, and planned for the days ahead. Then came the sudden pain and bleeding. Everything ended quickly. The hospital explained it happens for medical reasons no one can control. But her family refused to hear that.
They whispered that she must have done something wrong. Rumours spread fast. They accused her of ending the pregnancy on purpose. No comfort came from them. Instead, she faced judgement and cold stares.
Months later, when she struggled to conceive again, the accusations grew louder. Doctors called it temporary infertility and told her to be patient with treatment. Her relatives saw it differently. They treated it like a punishment or curse. Family events turned awkward. She felt every look carried blame. Read more https://drbokko.com/?p=37414
